If I Ignore it, Maybe it'll go away

This week we talked about family crises or stressors and some coping strategies. I discovered that I am an avoider. I'm too honest with myself to have denial be my pet method. And I don't scapegoat because I don't like confrontation. I avoid the problem and figure if I act like I'm happy, eventually the problem will go away and I will be. In thinking about it I realized that it's not an entirely poor strategy but not entirely good either. Ignoring the problem fixes nothing but, at the same time, there are some problems that can't be fixed. I don't like feeling like my world is screwed up so I separate my happiness from the situation. And that's good. Happiness shouldn't be circumstantial. It should be our state of being no matter what life throws at us. But, it's also important to take responsibility for the situation and be committed to solving a solvable problem. Also, the wrong way of coping is to isolate from family. Families are meant to lift each other during the hard times and we need to expect that from our families and be that as well. Trials will come and it would be good if we practiced working together before they do. We need to continually do things to strengthen our families so that a really tough trial doesn't give the final shove to an already crumbling building.